Quiet evening

[cleolinda]

So on one hand, I'm turning thirty in a couple of weeks and I'm having another one of those days where all I really want is someone warm to curl up next to at night but instead I'm going to die alone and the only reason anyone's even going to notice I went missing is because they're going to wonder why my journal hasn't been updated in a week.

On the other hand, my hair looks fantastic today.

So it goes.

(I'm kind of weird about relationships, though--I'd really like someone around to have fun with, but I'm not interested in weddings at all. Sister Girl was going over her long-cherished wedding plans--like, since she was in grade school--and how she wants a cherry blossom theme, so her colors will be champagne and a color I can only describe as "bubblegum purple," although I don't know if that makes any sense, and I was all like, "My colors are 'Las' and 'Vegas.' " I mean, I guess I could have a whole wedding if the guy and/or his family just really wanted one, but I would much rather have some wild romantic elopement and be done with it. We could have a big party when we got home if people just really needed some kind of gathering. This entire discussion is moot, of course, as I haven't been out on so much as a date in years anyway. I keep trying to remind myself--for the sake of my own self-esteem--that the problem isn't that I'm meeting guys who don't like me; I'm not meeting guys at all. I'm still stuck in this weird situation where it's like Tyler Durden on Livejournal, only with fewer explosive soaps, and I Am Jack's Lonely Saturday Night in real life, though.)

(Where was I? My hair looks great today. Yes.)

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trailer_spot: Ugly Truth, What Doesn't Kill You, Slumdog Millionaire, He's Just Not That Into You, Curious Case of Benjamin Button.

Wow... it's really strange not to have some kind of "Twilight Tuesday" MTV-based shenanigan going. Huh. 'Twilight': 10 reasons 'Breaking Dawn' should not be made into a movie. "That's right. He said 'puppies.' " Also: The Tour of Terror returns to Europe tomorrow, starting off with the UK movie premiere; I KNEW THE DVD WOULD COME OUT FOR VALENTINE'S DAY. Also-also, via wildcatlizzie: Access Hollywood premiered the 'Little Ashes' trailer. Hey there, it's young gay Salvador Dali! I haven't watched it yet, but the word I heard bandied about was "boysex." Step right up and watch the Twihards' heads asplode!

And I think I've posted it before, but now that y'all have actually seen the movie (and the scene in question got even weirder there), I think it's time to post it again: my favorite Twilight-appropriate lolcat.

ETA: FINISHING MOVE: LOLPIRE

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'X-Files' Producer Accuses 'Dark Knight' of Hogging Fanboys, Box Office For Itself. Okay, I was a huge X-Files fan in high school and college, and even I didn't go see the new movie. When you can't even get my ass in the theater, you have bigger problems than Batman.

Comments

[krazycat.livejournal.com]

So it goes.
Massive love for the Vonnegut reference.

I turned thirty a few months back, and after pouting about it for a few weeks, I went out and bought loads of Disney films on DVD ("I'm thirty, I can do whatever I damn well please). I'm confused by this thirty business. Wasn't it 1996 like last week?? Does not compute.

A friend of mine did get married in Vegas, with no family, and got drunk and wanted to go swimming in her dress. She's my hero, seriously.

[cleolinda.livejournal.com]

I think she might also be mine now.

long time reader, first time sparkler

[basilm.livejournal.com]

we are braving the UK premiere armed with sparkle motion tshirts and bottles of wine. and will report back.

Re: long time reader, first time sparkler

[jenepel.livejournal.com]

WHOO-HOO! Our shirts look awesome too - hopefully some other LOLfans will read them and recognise the quote.

[neveth.livejournal.com]

Ugh the idea of the "Wedding" makes me ill. I am sure the Boyfrienditude's mother (who has now started dropping "why aren't you guys engaged yet?" hints/comments) will demand a big huge wedding, and that's too bad for her because I ain't never having one. I hate being the focus of a huge crowd. Hell, I got the nervous throwups just being a bridesmaid in my COUSIN'S wedding.

[cleolinda.livejournal.com]

It just seems like such an insane amount of money to spend on one day that increasingly has nothing to do with two people pledging to spend their lives together and everything to do with making the bride feel like she's a movie star for a day.

[word-herder.livejournal.com]

Oh I'm so torn. I want to watch the Lost video, but then again I don't.

ETA
Also I wanted to elope. Desperately. But my husband's mother would've killed me. But omg. To this day, 7.5 years later, I still would have chosen elopement over a wedding. The day itself was more traumatic than joyful.

[neveth.livejournal.com]

Also I wanted to elope. Desperately. But my husband's mother would've killed me.

My Mother has volunteered to run interference duty for boyfriend's mother if we decide to get hitched/elope. His mother is a very conservative, very traditional thinker. She gets upset when she finds out he doesn't wear a tie to work, sort of person. I dread the "No, we are not having a fancy wedding" argument.

[brigidsblest.livejournal.com]

Okay, I was a huge X-Files fan in high school and collegesince it began, and even I didn't go see the new movie. When you can't even get my ass in the theater, you have bigger problems than Batman.

This.

[cleolinda.livejournal.com]

Yeah--I started watching it three or four episodes into the first season, but other than that, I was there from the beginning until shortly after Duchovny left, because even though I love Robert Patrick, I just really did not see the point of the show anymore.

[bizarreoptimism.livejournal.com]

I have finally reached a point where I feel I may be vaguely interested in dating somebody -- but I, too, never meet any guys. I mean, I work at a library, which is not a place that is exactly crawling with male coworkers (some stereotypes exist because they're true :P). And to meet guys on a social scene, I'd have to either start going to clubs or something, or make friends with people who enjoy large social gatherings, and I'm not interested in doing either, see.

It's TOUGH to meet guys when you're an introvert. Still, I'm only vaguely interested in having a boyfriend right now -- maybe I'll make more of an effort when I'm actively interested. Or not. We'll see. :)

Also:

YAY for the Commodore in a sci-fi show!

BOO at thoughts for a Zoolander sequel! (Some movies are so great they should be left alone. Galaxy Quest falls in this category as well.)

??? for TDK returning to theaters!! (Seriously, did they not make enough money or something?!)

[trash-addict.livejournal.com]

I, too, never meet any guys. I mean, I work at a library, which is not a place that is exactly crawling with male coworkers

I hear that. I'm not in a library, but my office is estrogen central. Apparently my boss has something against hiring men, so I have four female co-workers and my boss.

And while I probably wouldn't date a co-worker, it'd be fun...and he'd probably have friends? All my male friends are either in relationships (with my friends) or are...just that. Just friends, no potential.

[hulamoth.livejournal.com]

this is really sad but I'm going to have to disown Frank Spotnitz. He's finally lost it (I also think he's making stuff up).

THANK YOU for the Tempest info. A new A-list Shakespeare movie, I can't wait.

[evilbearhunter.livejournal.com]

I kind of like the idea of a big party with all my friends and family, maybe a potluck, in celebration of marriage, but also, dude, I go to college. My ideas might change, since that is a pretty college-y dream.

[cleolinda.livejournal.com]

Well, I've managed to hold on to that dream through college and after it, so you might be surprised.

[roseredhoofbeat.livejournal.com]

Some days I get sorta starry eyed thinking about a nice wedding with me in a pretty dress and stuff... and then I panic and freak out because I'm convinced no one will come.

So I ran off with my husband and we got hitched. I wore jeans. It was fabulous.

[cleolinda.livejournal.com]

Oh, awesome!

(I think I might secretly be afraid no one would come, either, although a giant formal strapless gown is so not me anyway. But that's pretty much why I'm not doing anything on my birthday, either--I'd rather have a nice, pleasant day where nothing happens because I planned nothing than a day where nothing went right and nobody came and I ended up feeling miserable.)

[laughingacademy.livejournal.com]

Mr. Spotnitz, your film’s box office is supposed to be a reflection of its quality, then apparently the American movie-going public was feeling generous this summer.

[robinmc.livejournal.com]

Amen, Cleolinda LA Times lady. (But seriously, I wouldn't be surprised if she used your recap for research.)

I'm right with you on the small/nonexistent wedding. We went to one this summer, and the bride seemed so ridiculously stressed out the whole time, to the point where she didn't even seem to be enjoying the day. I can't tell you how many times this exchange happened:

Person A: Wouldn't it be funny if we did such-and-such?
Person B: Oh it totally would!
Person C: Don't, she'll fucking kill you.

There are easier, less expensive ways to get yourself an ulcer.

[cleolinda.livejournal.com]

I don't actually know what she used for research, because she totally got the method of Bella's vampiring wrong (it wasn't the baby biting her, it was Edward, and you'd think that would be pretty obvious).

[jubilantia.livejournal.com]

Don't worry, I'm sure once the filming starts for New Moon, MTV will jump right back in there. Not to mention even more crazy stories about Twi-moms stalking the movie sets. Speaking of which, they need to put an APB (term?) out for that one 40-year-old woman who wanted to sign Taylor Lautner's underwear. NOT OK. ("Sparkle motion" in relation to Twilight will never, ever get old.)

[cleolinda.livejournal.com]

No no no, see, she wanted him to sign her underwear. While she was wearing it. Which... I don't know if that's worse or not.

[crumpeteer.livejournal.com]

Alright GNR, you start losing street cred when you start trying to start a fight with a soda. It'll only be more embarrassing when you lose...

[lupegarou.livejournal.com]

the thing is...GNR could win. they have legitimate reasons.
and that vaguely frightens me.

[unicornluvr.livejournal.com]

This is why I have cats. They also make excellent space heaters in the winter. . .although it's still 70 for the high, oh Texas.

[wendyzski.livejournal.com]

Yay for good hair days!

[plazmah.livejournal.com]

Another former die-hard X-Phile here who did not see the movie. It's time to move on, Spotnitz!

I'm slowly getting closer to thirty and concur; meeting boys is hard when you're an introvert and don't really care too much about all those shenanigans. I wouldn't mind throwing a big party in celebration of being married, but the looming cost of a wedding fills me with fear.

[cleolinda.livejournal.com]

Well, and I do meet new people now and then... and they're all married couples. And I love them. But... married couples. Sometimes I also meet their babies, I do meet babies as well.

[diddakoi.livejournal.com]

So on one hand, I'm turning thirty in a couple of weeks and I'm having another one of those days where all I really want is someone warm to curl up next to at night but instead I'm going to die alone and the only reason anyone's even going to notice I went missing is because they're going to wonder why my journal hasn't been updated in a week.

<3

Kinda my life right there, except for the journal part.

My problem isn't the meeting of men. It's just they're either taken or uninterested. And then I read about 50 year old housewives who run former jurors down with their bikes and have 3-month-long romantic entanglements, and I shake my fist at the sky.

[annemjw.livejournal.com]

Did you know Twilight doesn't open here till Boxing Day? It's very depressing, really, I need some glitter lolz in my life.

I am so with you on the wedding thing. If only my hair looked fabulous today! It is not bad though, so there's that :)

[particle-person.livejournal.com]

Ah, well, I'm in the same situation. I'm living in a bedroom next to my mom and her partner and my grandma! The bedroom used to be an office! We moved the fax machine outside my door, and sometimes it wakes me up in the morning with a piercing ring! Yeah, that spells romance, right?

(Where was I? My hair looks great today. Yes.)

Well, you know what they say: Hair today, poon tomorrow.

[cleolinda.livejournal.com]

... I don't know how that helps me, though.

[manekikoneko.livejournal.com]

I just turned 30 this year. It's okay. The main problem is that I'm back in school, trying to finish my B.A. finally, and everyone else is so freakin' young. It's so annoying.

I've currently given up on dating, myself. In a cost/benefit respect, based on my previous relationships, I've decided it's just too emotionally and financially expensive.

[greedyskunk.livejournal.com]

Oh, I am in the same position! I turned 31 this year and just started *again* on my undergrad. Both of my instructors are younger than me. Asking the class if they remember Johnny Carson and laser discs? My Lit prof actually made a reference to warping in Super Mario Bros, smiled, then said we were all too young for that. 0_o Um, no. It's really bad when I have no desire to date my classmates, but I really want to mack on the prof.

The most annoying thing about trying to meet guys my age is checking the left hand for a ring. I'm a super introvert and it is disheartening to find that the guy I've been working up my courage to talk to is taken.

[anne-jumps.livejournal.com]

So on one hand, I'm turning thirty in a couple of weeks and I'm having another one of those days where all I really want is someone warm to curl up next to at night but instead I'm going to die alone and the only reason anyone's even going to notice I went missing is because they're going to wonder why my journal hasn't been updated in a week.

On the other hand, my hair looks fantastic today.

So it goes.

ARE YOU ME

[cleolinda.livejournal.com]

At least we have good hair today?

[venice-diaries.livejournal.com]

Considering the size of your following and the frequency of your posting, I would suspect a 24 hour non-posting period at most before the cops showed up at your door with the explanation that they'd received about a hundred worried calls.

[cleolinda.livejournal.com]

Well, I gave it a few days to account for people trying to figure out where I live.

Weddings, Birthdays, Events of Great.....whatever

[suzeclues12.livejournal.com]

could not resist putting in my two pfennigs into the mix.....

Weddings: ceremony was supposed to be for 20 people (2 relatives crashed it - "I was there when she was born, I'll be there when she gets married" - thanks, Aunt Alice.), reception was for 80. It was still more than I wanted, but the very least I could get away with.

(math du jour: big southern family+only daughter=argh!).

Aside from the whole "Look at me, I'm a princess!" thing (Disney is still out there, ya'll, and probably a lot less expensive), weddings are for relatives - what I had only just managed to placate my Mom and various aunts, etc. If it's your thing, sure, own it, enjoy it. But there are many of us for which this is a new circle in hell. I wish the world could respect that.

30th birthday: got my hair done and it didn't stink, went and got my new drivers license (finally, a good picture!), and gave up high heels except for whenever I damn well felt like it.

Remember, going solo is so much better than being with the wrong person (there are TOO many nightmares out there!).

And for the record: happily married for 26 years now, thank you very much.

Re: Weddings, Birthdays, Events of Great.....whatever

[plazmah.livejournal.com]

weddings are for relatives

This is truth. I'm sure having a big southern family is something akin to having a big Indian family; a wedding is less about a couple getting married and more about two sets of parents showing off to their friends. ;P

[keenai.livejournal.com]

The ONLY way I will have a wedding is if my husband to be really, really, really wants one and understands that I am not participating in planning it AT ALL, and it will be his show. I can think of no bigger waste of money or time than a wedding, seriously. I love going to them, but I would never ever ever want to throw one.

If I ever get married, which I'm not going to say won't happen, but it'll probably be years and years and years from now when I miraculously meet someone, I'm going to the justice of the peace and maybe having a potluck or other sort of party to celebrate. MAYBE.

[snowwhite2421.livejournal.com]

Weddings seem to be the trappings of control freaks and daddy's girls as far as I can tell. It's that "I AM A *PRINCESS*, BITCH!" mentality that, quite frankly, I don't have.

A piece of paper won't make us love each other more. Neither will jewelry (although for some shallow women, it will).

No one needs a wedding. Some people just really like to be stared at.

And really, wouldn't you rather they notice how great your hair is?

[dzurlady.livejournal.com]

A piece of paper won't make us love each other more.
Being married does give you legal benefits which can be useful, though, and it is possible to get the paper without a wedding.