Bad news

[cleolinda]

My mother called about an hour ago to tell me that my great-aunt on my father's side passed away very suddenly last night. She was 94 and had been ill off and on the last few months, but the suddenness is something of a shock. She lived with us for 18 years because my mother worked, so she was there to fill in the gaps, if that makes any sense, as a combination grandmother/housekeeper. I was very close to her as a child, and so was my sister--she lived with us until I was eighteen and my sister was eleven. Really, she gave up her entire life, cheerfully, to taking care of people, and my family was just the last in a long line.

I tend to get very calm and practical at moments like this, because that's how I deal with things. Also pensive, distracted and unable to concentrate, but if I do get visibly emotional, it tends to come much later. Sometimes this is helpful for other people, to have someone who hasn't had a complete breakdown; sometimes it looks unseemly. It is what it is.

I feel bad even saying this, but I would really appreciate it if I didn't get any "When do we get new linkspam/Secret Life of Dolls/whatever thing?" requests for a while, like I already have this morning. But if I don't tell you, you won't know.

Comments

[gfrancie.livejournal.com]

I am sorry. Take care of yourself.

[tekalynn.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry. That's hard.

Sorry to hear about your loss

[andromedabastow.livejournal.com]

My condolences to you and your family

[cmdr-zoom.livejournal.com]

*nods soberly*
Take care of yourself and your family.

[metonymy.livejournal.com]

I'm really sorry to hear that.

Grieving doesn't always look like we think it should. <3

[queenmabwords.livejournal.com]

Sorry for your loss.

[katharhino.livejournal.com]

Oh I'm so sorry! You should certainly get time to process your grief in your own way. She sounds like a lovely person.

[madripoor-rose.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry for your loss.

[robinmc.livejournal.com]

Oh Cleo, I'm so sorry, for you and your whole family.

[kitsune17.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry for your loss.

Take care of yourself and your family.

[kouredios.livejournal.com]

So sorry for your loss. *hugs*

[last-archangel.livejournal.com]

Oh, I'm very sorry. She sounds like a wonderful lady.

[callmesyd.livejournal.com]

My grandmother practically raised me until I was fifteen or sixteen because both of my parents worked full time. When we lost her a few years ago, I reacted exactly this way: very calm, Emotional Rock For Others mode, and after a week or two it finishes sinking in and suddenly my cat can't figure out why I'm bawling on him. (sorry cat)

Hang in there.

[fiducia.livejournal.com]

*hug* I'm so sorry for the loss of your grant-aunt. She sounds like one hell of a woman. Take care of yourself. Check in when you can so we know you're alright. Everything else is gravy.

Thinking of you!

[karintheswede]

I'm sorry to hear that. Do take care of yourself.

[xerinmichellex.livejournal.com]

I'm sorry for your loss.

I reacted the same way when my father passed away last month--very calm, but distracted at the same time. Grief affects people differently.

[author-by-night.livejournal.com]

Oh gosh... I'm so sorry.



I feel bad even saying this, but I would really appreciate it if I didn't get any "When do we get new linkspam/Secret Life of Dolls/whatever thing?" requests for a while,

Don't feel bad for saying it.

[chulacabra.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry for your loss. My grandmother helped raise me, so I know how precious it is to have someone like that in your life--someone who can love you in an uncomplicated way, without all the baggage that a parental relationship can have. My condolences to you and your family. And it's okay to mourn in any way that works for you--either Elinor or Marianne, if that's what you're feeling in a given moment.

[kellyrfineman.livejournal.com]

I am sorry for your loss. Hugs.

[acaciakitty.livejournal.com]

I am very sorry for your loss and offer my condolences to you and your family.

[fiberaddict.livejournal.com]

I'm very sorry for your loss. Please take care of yourself!

[stateofserenity.livejournal.com]

My sincere apologies to you and your family Cleo. I hope that you all will find peace with your loss in whatever form it physically manifests as.

[all-ephemera.livejournal.com]

I'm very sorry to hear about your loss. I tend to get very calm in the face of things like this as well, at least for a little while, so I understand the reaction. I hope that she passed peacefully. Lots of hugs.

[cellardoor28.livejournal.com]

I'm really sorry to hear that hon.

I know it's not ideal, but maybe turn commenting off on your journal for a bit? I'd love to say 'of course noone will bug you for stuff, that's totally inappropriate!', but people can be asses.

[flamingo-bandit.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry for your loss, and you and your family will be in my thoughts. Is there anything you need that we Internet people can do for you?

[cleolinda.livejournal.com]

I think everything on that front is okay for the moment. I'm more to a point of just needing to take a little time away out of respect, if that makes a little sense.