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[cleolinda]

I am not. allowed. to worry. in bed. I'm not. It's against the rules--you worry in bed, you associate bed with anxiety, you have a hard time sleeping. Ever since I instituted a no-worrying rule in bed several years back, I've slept a lot better--sure, I can't sleep sometimes, but it's usually due to caffeine or a vicious late-sleeping/napping/staying-up cycle. For some reason, I think worrying must be really easy to slip into, because the alternative is to force yourself to think only of happy fun daydreamy things, and you usually fall asleep in the middle of that, as if it were actually hard to think of nice things. (If you've got any celebrity fantasies, this is the time to pull them out. I'm just saying.) I usually plan stories that are still in the farming stage--mostly my fantasy project, because it's so far from being finished that it's still fun and not stress-inducing. But for some reason, here I am, up after midnight eating toast because I can't sleep in my stuffy stuffy room, because I keep thinking about the annotated bibliography (because in theory, I can sleep now and work tomorrow or work now and sleep tomorrow, and I'm sure you can figure out which one I chose) and all the recaps and parodies I haven't written, and all the things I owe people. I keep thinking about all the lamps I can't bring myself to light. Fear really is the mindkiller, y'all.

Comments

[barrelgoddess.livejournal.com]

Man, yeah, I hate worrying in bed. :/ Don't stress yourself on the recaps and parodies; I'm pretty sure that I actually can speak for everyone this one time when I say that we'd rather see you feeling good and relaxed, as much as we enjoy them. Try and relax and focus on the important stuff, cause we're still gonna be here no matter what.

[elendiari22.livejournal.com]

Ugh. I know how you feel, and I can only hope that things get better for you. And for some reason, I only tell myself trgic, heart-breaking stories when I'm going to sleep, because happy ones energize me. Strange.

[girlalmighty]

Ever since I instituted a no-worrying rule in bed several years back, I've slept a lot better

That's a really good plan. I'd never thought of that, but I can see how that would help a lot. I tend to distract myself by planning for the next day - "I make lists in my sleep," you know?

And my room's stuffy, too. The window's open and we've got two fans up and it's still hot as hell in the morning. The school doesn't let us control the heat. Gah.

I'm with you on the celebrity fantasies thing.

[rebelaessedai.livejournal.com]

In all honesty, I generally think of my SO, imagining all kinds of giddy, girly things as I go to sleep. It generally takes away all insomnia. Sometimes I can't help but worry, but I try that, and if it doesn't work you still have meditation. Of course, you need to practice at that, but it's well worth the time.

[princessmandys.livejournal.com]

argh, i hate worrying of any kind, although the kind in bed is the worst. You can try and try to convince yourself that your ceiling is the most amazing and interesting thing you've ever seen in you whole goldarn LIFE! but it simply does not work.

Toast is a good way of relieving worry, *yay I found another toast at night person!!!! high five Cleo!!!*

Please don't worry about the recaps or the parodies or the bibliography, I'm sure that we would rather have a happy cleo than a parody! I would at least! They'll come sooner or later, let them go right now! lol. Eat more toast, it fixes everything. :-) huggggs to cleo!!
<3heather

[ineedtodance11.livejournal.com]

hear hear.

and i have to agree w/ the toast thing (HOW COULD YOU FORGET ME?!?!) and the whole no-worrying-in-bed-thingy. it helps me a lot.

[elbales]

No-worrying rule: Excellent idea. I must try it. But the celeb fantasy thing could become daaaaaangerous.

Biblio: You will conquer. Raar.

Work yet undone: If you can't do anything about it right now, then quit worrying about it. Stick it on your to-do list or your radar or whatever (whatevah?) and worry about it later.

God I'm bossy.

[laurelin-kit.livejournal.com]

*hug*

[mysticowl.livejournal.com]

Meh it's annotated bibliography though. The big point isn't the book info, it's the paragraph (or more?) she has to type about the book and why it should have been read.

[particle-person.livejournal.com]

Aw, *pats*.

You know, at this point it might be best to just give up on some of those parodies-- the ones that aren't timely anymore-- and just get on with life. If you decide you're never going to do them, they won't weigh you down, and maybe it will make you feel free to start something.

[holding-pattern.livejournal.com]

Celeb (or other inappropriate) fantasies are great to pull out when you're trying to get to sleep. I can always guarantee that capricious fate will lead me to fall asleep just before anything gets interesting :).

[notemily.livejournal.com]

I keep thinking about all the lamps I can't bring myself to light.

yeah, I hear that.

[promise19.livejournal.com]

I have the same problem. The best sleep I've ever gotten was back when I used to listen to a self-hypnosis tape for relaxation (it was supposed to be used to for you to teach yourself to do it, but the guy was so effective, I just always listened to him). I keep threatening to re-buy in CD format (no tape player in the bedroom anymore). But it will be expensive if I buy the complete set (he's gone bigtime and has three different CDs now).

But back to the point, I've done the worrying at bedtime thing since I was a little girl. Except now it's not the monster under the bed. Grr. Good wishes for great sleep. (I'm still working myself.) :-/

[m4mitchell.livejournal.com]

What is his name? Self-hypnosis has always sounded kind of neat, and if his tapes were actually effective then I'm kind of tempted...

[ambiguousreason.livejournal.com]

If you've got any celebrity fantasies, this is the time to pull them out. I'm just saying.

It's actually surprisingly helpful. And it definitely keeps me from stressing out. :D

[bacardibreezer7.livejournal.com]

Hon, you don't owe anybody anything. Unless your life depends on it, it's not so important that you should lose sleep. Go to bed...everyone wanting a recap or a parody or whatever can wait, and if they claim they can't, they need to get over it.

[rebel-waltz.livejournal.com]

i no longer have a normal or constant sleep cycle because of how much worrying i do when i'm trying to fall asleep. i really can't stop it. i'd love to be able to master the No Worrying in Bed trick.

[mysticowl.livejournal.com]

Were my my twin separated at birth? For the last two, three weeks I've had trouble sleeping, now I basically just get four, five hours here and there. Went to bed at 11pm tonight, planning to wake up at 8 and have three hours to write an essay before going to class and... I've been waking up every hour on the hour: 1:50, 2:50, finally now at 3:50. WTF?! I'm not even stressing right now, for the first time in weeks.

[torificus.livejournal.com]

I keep meaning to mention to you, every time I see the links on your posts:

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an extension for Firefox (possibly other Mozilla things, I don't know. I'm fun and illiterate that way ;)) that pops up a reminder to click to The Hunger Site, The Breast Cancer Site, the Literacy Site, and a few others every day. :)

[maggieblue.livejournal.com]

i have always had problems with anxiety in bed. even at 7 years old, i couldn't sleep much or well. still can't. it's 6:15a.m. and i'm still up and on the computer. (in all fairness, i was at work until 3:30a.m., but i was so tired and should have gone right to bed.)

the oddest thing about my sleep anxiety is, for the past decade, i've had more anxiety about getting into bed than when i'm in it. even though i loooooove sleep, getting into bed makes me think i might miss something. it takes time away from me. i don't get as much done when i sleep too much, etc. etc. etc.

and then, once asleep, i simply cannot wake up. my morning shifts are hell.

i have many things that need to be done, and i'm backed up, too. that's another major factor. i've got major work to do on my room, but the point of staying awake is? my boyfriend is asleep in there, so it's not like i could do anything about it right now. (but i'm tempted to stay awake until he goes to work in 2 hours and go nuts on that room.)

i still don't understand why i can't let myself enjoy sleep more. i drive myself crazy thinking of all the things i could be doing when, in reality, i refuse to do anything but sit on my butt when i'm tired. i probaby won't get my room fixed up, or do anything else that i need to, on my 2 days off this week. and then, i won't let myself sleep well (or much) because of it.

i'm an insomniac in the weirdest way.

[mysticowl.livejournal.com]

Meh, you know what, happens to me a lot. My husband just rolls his eyes at me for being a brooder, and tells me to calm down about things I can't do anything about right his minute. Easier said than done!

[sapphires13.livejournal.com]

I have such problems falling asleep. I can't get any sleep at all unless I'm really tired, so I normally keep myself out of bed until I know I'm ready to just drop asleep.
Planning stories has never let me down though. Well no, actually it has once. I got so into this particular one, that I ended up getting out of bed to write it.

I've banned myself from bringing my iPod to bed with me. Too many of the songs give me energy.

[melody2tds.livejournal.com]

I have to practically meditate in bed to be able to sleep without my insomnia meds. If I think of anything at all, it will keep me awake.
If I tried to think of a story I wanted to write, I would be there all night, and it would rival the Potter series, (in length, not quality) by the time the sun came up.

[sea-of-tethys.livejournal.com]

Oh, you poor thing. *lots of hugs* Don't worry about the recaps and parodies - you know we can wait.

[sea-of-tethys.livejournal.com]

Oh, also? I've found audiobooks to be wonderful for getting me to sleep, even when I don't want to sleep.

[misspearl.livejournal.com]

Audiobooks are truly fab. I've found a couple of Harry Potter tapes from when I was 10/11 (as you can tell by them being tapes), and although they're not the entire books, I know the stories well enough to know what's going on. Anyway, the point is, I've been listing to one side of CoS for like, three weeks...

Target policies

[corkdorkdan.livejournal.com]

To be honest, I don't know if you've posted about this before, or someone has already in the comments, but feel free to disregard if it's already been discussed. I think you'd be interested under the category of general women's rights and corporation issues.

Target Stands by Contraceptive Policy (http://www.kstp.com/article/stories/S11923.html?cat=1): Target allows pharmacists to choose not to fill requests for emergency contraception, also known as Plan B, if it is against their religious beliefs.

I've posted something about it on my own journal, along with other Target issues (no "Christmas" in their ads, no Salvation Army at their doors) here (http://www.livejournal.com/~corkdorkdan/10488.html).

P.S. I heartily agree with your "no worry in bed" rule. I've found that ritual helps me to segregate my sleep time. After I shut down the comp, brush my teeth, put on my "sleep" CD, my body and brain take the cues and start to shut down. I know it can be hard, though, with deadlines looming. Maybe some basic meditation would help to clear your mind?

[adoresixtyfour.livejournal.com]

I'm in one of those "vicious late-sleeping/napping/staying-up" cycles right now, but it's hard not to worry when it's the holiday season and you don't have a job.

[elisa0984.livejournal.com]

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Hope you're doing a bit better.

[elisa0984.livejournal.com]

And the offer only lasts for 5 minutes.