Well, and something I was specifically thinking of is this: you come home from a first date, it wasn't great, and you write it up in a humorous way. Even if you're fairly tactful and generous and civil about it, the guy could read it and go, "Oh. She didn't have a good time. Guess I'm not going to bother asking her out for a second date."
Alternate version: you come home from a first date, it wasn't great, and you write it up in your personal IRL diary, or you only confide in your closest friends IRL or under f-lock. You go out on a second date with the guy because hey, why not? It works out better this time, because either the universe isn't conspiring against you now, or maybe you're both just more at ease. You continue dating and start up a relationship.
That's what I was thinking of with the dandelion fluff analogy: writing about it in public can actually affect what happens next. Maybe six months later when the dust has settled, you can have the luxury of saying, "You know, our first date, that's a funny story..."
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Alternate version: you come home from a first date, it wasn't great, and you write it up in your personal IRL diary, or you only confide in your closest friends IRL or under f-lock. You go out on a second date with the guy because hey, why not? It works out better this time, because either the universe isn't conspiring against you now, or maybe you're both just more at ease. You continue dating and start up a relationship.
That's what I was thinking of with the dandelion fluff analogy: writing about it in public can actually affect what happens next. Maybe six months later when the dust has settled, you can have the luxury of saying, "You know, our first date, that's a funny story..."