i did an excercise very much like this about 4 years ago. wrote it on a peice of paper and burnt that paper. I made it really specific and particular tho. I don't know how much of this is wishful thinking or just my brain seeing things i want it to see, but i found almost exactly the guy i had envisioned (down to asian with a british accent!!) it was awesome! i had 2.5 years of the best relationship in my life. I learned so much about myself and grew up and it was great. now that its over i think the one thing i've learned is that its really great to get what you ask for, but its not neccessarily what you want. Sure he was Asian, had a british accent and was into video games/comics/silly randomness etc etc etc but there were so many things i didn't think about that would have made it lasting. so my list of things i'm looking for right now comes down to one statement: I want the person who i will never stop loving; and will never stop loving me. I guess its that "spark" thing. His apperance/interests/personality will probably not be what i think i want, but it will be what i need. and like that Meg Cabot romance novel i read said most eloquently, wouldn't it be nice to come home every night to someone who doesn't NEED you [to fix them/their lives etc], but who WANTS you, no matter what.

*sigh* tho Rpattz or James Marsden or any other on my list would be REALLY NICE TOOO ... for christmas and my birthday? c'mon pleaasee? lol