1) Unless you are sporting some very clear fashion cues or have noticeably dated women before, nobody assumes you like the pussy. No, not even other pussy-liking women. Bisexual invisibility extends far beyond the media and into real-life.
2) Women are, generally, less forward than guys. If they assume you're straight, they won't hit on you or ask you out because they don't want to embarrass you or themselves.
So, if you want to date women, you have to do one (or several) of the following things:
-Put your ovaries out there and start hitting on women and asking them out.
-Start hanging out in GBLT circles, clubs, and events--and make sure they know you're not just an ally.
-Incorporate a few heavy hints into your life...say, a Pride T-shirt that you wear around town on a regular basis.
-Start internet dating. This is actually, I've found, more mainstream in the queer community than in the straight. So trolling OKCupid for girls is likely to turn up a different (and improved) quality of potential date than it would if you were looking for men.
Sadly, being bi and dating girls does require a little more effort than dating men. But it's worth it. Hope I'm being helpful!
Fun with unsolicited advice
1) Unless you are sporting some very clear fashion cues or have noticeably dated women before, nobody assumes you like the pussy. No, not even other pussy-liking women. Bisexual invisibility extends far beyond the media and into real-life.
2) Women are, generally, less forward than guys. If they assume you're straight, they won't hit on you or ask you out because they don't want to embarrass you or themselves.
So, if you want to date women, you have to do one (or several) of the following things:
-Put your ovaries out there and start hitting on women and asking them out.
-Start hanging out in GBLT circles, clubs, and events--and make sure they know you're not just an ally.
-Incorporate a few heavy hints into your life...say, a Pride T-shirt that you wear around town on a regular basis.
-Start internet dating. This is actually, I've found, more mainstream in the queer community than in the straight. So trolling OKCupid for girls is likely to turn up a different (and improved) quality of potential date than it would if you were looking for men.
Sadly, being bi and dating girls does require a little more effort than dating men. But it's worth it. Hope I'm being helpful!