OMG ILU I have tried to explain to people for YEARS what it is that I hate so much about Tom Cruise's teeth. I can't look at him when he's talking because all the sound fades away and I am transfixed by his off-center teeth...
I figured out what I wanted by a lengthy (and sometimes ugly) process of elimination.
My short list of must-haves: CONFIDENCE - NOT COCKINESS, but confidence. He must not require validation from me or anyone else, but still be humble enough to know how to take a compliment, as well as not be a total ass. INTELLIGENCE - I want to learn stuff from him. I also want him to be inquisitive enough about life that I can teach him stuff, too. RESPONSIBILITY - sounds dumb, but I don't want to have to remind someone to pay bills and such. Can't always win on that front, but it still matters to me. MUST BE WEIRD - by conventional standards. I just don't get normal people. Maybe "Quirky" was the word I wanted. I don't know. MUST HAVE HIS OWN LIFE - I want him to be secure enough to be okay with that. Sometimes I just want to read a book and be alone. Doesn't mean I love you less, it just means I want to be alone.
I also think it is VV Important that you agree on 3 fundamental issues: Marriage, Children, and Pets. You don't have to have the SAME opinion, but they must mesh.
Me, I ended up with a sideshow freak (not a term of endearment, he has a real job too but he does shows periodically) who came with an extensive library of books I'd never read but really wanted to; no interest in marriage, children, or dogs/cats; the ability to pay rent/car payments without angering the credit bureau; and no qualms about sitting his butt down to play warcraft or go for a bike ride if I feel like doing something without him.
We're still completely retarded for each other 4 years in. I suppose it's a good sign...?
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I figured out what I wanted by a lengthy (and sometimes ugly) process of elimination.
My short list of must-haves:
CONFIDENCE - NOT COCKINESS, but confidence. He must not require validation from me or anyone else, but still be humble enough to know how to take a compliment, as well as not be a total ass.
INTELLIGENCE - I want to learn stuff from him. I also want him to be inquisitive enough about life that I can teach him stuff, too.
RESPONSIBILITY - sounds dumb, but I don't want to have to remind someone to pay bills and such. Can't always win on that front, but it still matters to me.
MUST BE WEIRD - by conventional standards. I just don't get normal people. Maybe "Quirky" was the word I wanted. I don't know.
MUST HAVE HIS OWN LIFE - I want him to be secure enough to be okay with that. Sometimes I just want to read a book and be alone. Doesn't mean I love you less, it just means I want to be alone.
I also think it is VV Important that you agree on 3 fundamental issues: Marriage, Children, and Pets. You don't have to have the SAME opinion, but they must mesh.
Me, I ended up with a sideshow freak (not a term of endearment, he has a real job too but he does shows periodically) who came with an extensive library of books I'd never read but really wanted to; no interest in marriage, children, or dogs/cats; the ability to pay rent/car payments without angering the credit bureau; and no qualms about sitting his butt down to play warcraft or go for a bike ride if I feel like doing something without him.
We're still completely retarded for each other 4 years in. I suppose it's a good sign...?